My Grief Counselling Story

Last year was one of the worst times in my whole life I had never in my 23 years of life experienced something this painful and traumatic from the visits to hospitals, doctors and clinics for tests and nobody could find a solution to my dear mom’s pain to being told she’s got stage 4 lung cancer and she’s got a matter of weeks maybe even days to live. 

My mother was fading day by day, the disease took over the body of the person I loved more than anything and the pain of watching her suffer and wither away tore me apart.

I was sure there was nothing that would get me through this! The fact of losing the one person who I never thought I’d ever lose, the one I feared losing most in this world. January 2023 came along and it happened! I got the call to say she had passed away and my world stood still. 

I started bereavement counselling to help me get through the experience and honestly I never believed it would help, but to my surprise having someone to talk to about the worst experience in my life helped more than anything. 

On the days I felt alone, like I was losing control, having someone there to listen and to give me the most comforting advice and reassuring me that it was all part of this long journey was certainly helpful. The counsellor never lied, she never promised things that she couldn’t make sure to provide. Counseling helped me understand the 5 stages of grief and how to get through each one; it also helped me open up.

Having bereavement counseling made me realize it was okay to talk about the pain , that reliving it for a moment helped in the end , that it was okay to be doing counseling that there was nothing wrong. 

It didn’t mean I was weaker for having someone help me deal and come to terms with things but it meant I was a strong resilient person for opening up and talking about the worst experience I’d encountered with a professional understanding person who was my guide in this tough journey. 

I now recommend people going through a loss to go and get bereavement counselling because it helps. It can’t take the pain away but it for sure makes it more bearable